Imagine you had lasagna for dinner tonight; you saved some for leftovers and put it in a very nice glass container in the fridge. A week goes by and the lasagna is still in the refrigerator. Day by day it gets pushed behind new groceries until three weeks later you move some yogurt, and the lasagna is still sitting there. It’s moldy and has got some fur on it, it would be disgusting to clean it out right now. You leave it in the fridge for another time.

Sometimes you put leftovers in containers you don’t care about, something cheap and made of plastic. If you have some egg rolls that get moldy in this, it might be okay to throw them out. It was contained in something unimportant, nothing that was worth the effort of preserving.

That glass container you put the lasagna in is expensive and valuable, it was a gift from your beloved grandmother at your wedding. Throwing this away isn’t something you want to take lightly, you’re going to clean it out eventually. It’s less stressful to leave It in the container right now, out of sight out of mind. The longer you leave it in the fridge, the more disgusting it will be when you finally clean it and the more work it will take to get the glass back to its prior condition.

As human beings, we very often look for the easiest path forward; the variation between people is what each of us finds easy and what each of us finds difficult. These are what we often think of as talents; If you don’t have social anxiety you might have a talent for public speaking, if you are open to a wide variety of new experiences you might have a talent for some kind of creative endeavor.

For those with social anxiety like myself, having a difficult conversation with someone can be terribly frightening. The thought of having the conversation is stressful and if you are tired or overwhelmed by other things in life, you resort to habits, the things you don’t have to think about. Having that uncomfortable conversation is a difficult problem and you don’t have the energy to handle a difficult problem right now. I’m not sure what the best solution to this kind of thing is, but if you have any suggestions, please let me know?