I have a lot of social anxiety and so do most of my friends. Roughly speaking this means not only am I terrible with women, but all of my friends are too. Watching pornography is an easy, free way to satisfy my sexual urges. It's substantially easier than going up to someone and sweating profusely as I avoid eye contact attempting to ask them on a date. Even if I were to get a date, the amount of work it is to maintain a healthy relationship can be quite a lot, pornography requires almost nothing.

As an analogy, let’s look at food. On my way to work every morning I am almost always running late. Yes, I realize not everyone has this problem; Whereas some leave their house in a casual stroll, I slam the door while sprinting to my car. Unless It’s a day off, I never have the time to prepare eggs, pancakes or even a smoothie. Without someone to do it for me, I wouldn’t even have enough time to make coffee. If I eat breakfast at all it’s often cereal or something prepared previously like blueberry muffins or banana bread. The final options are to go to work without eating anything, which happens quite often, or stop at a drive-thru on my way to work, usually to get doughnuts or an Egg McMuffin.

Even though I often eat lunch in our office breakroom, because I run late in the mornings, my breakroom cabinet is stocked with foods extremely high in sodium and saturated fat. If I weren’t running out the door every morning It would be more possible to bring something healthy from home, something plenty of my co-workers do so on a regular basis. As I’ve been writing this, I realize many of these problems in my life may perhaps be less of a problem if I were more organized and managed my time better. Let me know how you feel; are you organized or impulsive?

All of these problems with fast food are a direct correlation to the problems with watching too much pornography. If I don't find a relationship with someone I love I will in all likelihood end up a bitter, resentful, angry person. Pornography alone prevents me from ever being in a relationship by satisfying my urges with social avoidance rather than using my urges to go out and talk to someone. It prevents me from putting in work to reduce my social anxiety and it prevents me from facing my fears of asking woman out on a date. If you have an addiction of any kind and you don’t think it’s bad for you, look at what you use it to avoid? Is what you’re avoiding good or bad for you to do so?